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kurai

Posts: 28 Join date: 2009-03-06
 | Subject: Re: WotIF VI after chat Fri Oct 09, 2009 5:08 pm | |
| A couple things here: As Orrin has said, Mordor was not the one who handed out the Alcohol to Rellin/ Macajah. The very fact that he was told it was for lightweights keeps it from being us. We do crazy stuff, that's why we are well aware of the need for discretion. We don't want people dying in our camp, so we don't just give alcohol out to anyone. Also, the presence of Absinthe guarantees that it was not one of our guys. I can think of no member of Mordor who enjoys Absinthe. On a related note: Instead of talking about how horrible people, i.e. Mordor, are/is, just handing out alcohol indiscriminately, perhaps someone should have given the kid a run down of the camps. I'm quite sure that Mordor being a party camp is a well known fact, even among you guys. I make it a habit to tell each new guy I bring in about the various camps, and what to expect, as well as what to look out for. I realize this is a little after the fact, but I figured since Mordor was the name being used most, it called for a member of Mordor to answer. Now, on a fun note, I hear my gobbo friend Milenko had LOADS of fun fighting you guys all event and specifically in the Clan vs Haven battles. I know It was great seeing how visible Haven was, you had a very united front and it made me grin to see so much effort put into presented a strong green and red front to the rest of the midwest. Good job guys, and I hope to see you at Gates. |
|  | | Orrin None-son

Posts: 519 Join date: 2008-09-28 Age: 28 Location: Ravenwood
 | Subject: Re: WotIF VI after chat Sat Oct 10, 2009 3:01 pm | |
| You think I let him wonder around with-out a coursery heaads up of hte land? I told him of mordor, the grove, hailing, the frequency of porta-pottys, where teh big mud holes were, and who to avoid....VVS. I look after people, ut I don't babysit. _________________ Making money the old fashion way...killing for it.
"The road is the edge of the world, if you get hit by a car you're out." -Alo Taleweaver
VAZI Death Squad SGT, Orrin None-son....
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|  | | kurai

Posts: 28 Join date: 2009-03-06
 | Subject: Re: WotIF VI after chat Sat Oct 10, 2009 5:31 pm | |
| Didn't mean you bro. Didn't know you knew the kid before that. If he was given a heads up then of course to him goes some of the responsibility. there's a bit going to him anyways, accepting the drinks. It's the severity of the amount that was on the others who would hopefully have been kind enough to have told him to stop. obviously, that wasn't the case. But this has all been discussed before, so yeah. |
|  | | Kairi Cypmann Seneschal

Posts: 680 Join date: 2008-08-20 Location: Rolla, MO
 | Subject: Re: WotIF VI after chat Wed Oct 14, 2009 4:09 am | |
| As previously stated, I'm not blaming Mordor specifically. I'm blaming Mordor, yes, but I'm also blaming every other non-dry camp out there. My own little brother was offered alcohol in the Sacred Grove, not Mordor, so believe me when I say I have a bone to pick with individuals more than realms and camps. However, I truly don't feel like people watch minors enough at events. I know a lot of people who got a hold of alcohol this past event who were definitely underage. People use the excuse, "Well, we card at the bar," but if someone asks a friend to go get them something, then that method of preventing minors from drinking (especially excessively) is more or less worthless; it's even more worthless when individuals are just handing random things out to people without telling them what it is or without asking their age. That being said, it's nearly impossible to keep people from giving alcohol to minors, and to keep minors from getting alcohol. That means there's a bit of something wrong with the mindset of Dagorhir as a whole, in my opinion, or at least to the majority of people who think that behavior is ok or not really their problem. Dry camps is a great way to help keep intelligent people away from the wildness that takes place in wet camps, but it sadly still won't save a lot of curious or outright stupid people from having an experience they're legally not old enough to partake in. If we seemed to be bashing Mordor or any group in particular, I apologize for making it seem that way. I'm angry at most everyone at an event, not just one realm. -.-; I also really enjoyed fighting you after the Haven tournaments were going on, Kurai. I don't get to face off with other red fighters often, so that was a very fun learning experience for me. (: _________________ I am because I need to be.
Kairi the Claymore
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|  | | Constantine

Posts: 377 Join date: 2008-08-22 Location: Truman Province
 | Subject: Re: WotIF VI after chat Wed Oct 14, 2009 4:18 am | |
| | Kairi Cypmann wrote: | | That means there's a bit of something wrong with the mindset of Dagorhir as a whole, in my opinion, or at least to the majority of people who think that behavior is ok or not really their problem. |
I agree. The fact that these things happen gives Dagorhir a bad image. I can only imagine what people would think if the news came to do a story and coincidentally the police where there handing out various drug-, alcohol-, and public-indecency-related citations. Underage drinking, public nudity, and the smoking of weed may happen at events, and we may even expect them to happen, but they're still crimes. I don't want an entire organization to get a bad name just because some people can't show some restraint.
But I wasn't there, so I don't know the extent of the problem. I'm just making these statements based on my own few experiences and what others have said about theirs. _________________ I shed a tear for every drop of blood drawn by my blade. Why we seek peace through death and murder, I will never know.
I'm much better at wordplay than swordplay. ----------------------------------------------------------------- Squire Apprentice Bard, Scholar, Apprentice Weaponsmith
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|  | | Tyr

Posts: 595 Join date: 2008-08-18 Age: 19 Location: The Night
 | Subject: Re: WotIF VI after chat Wed Oct 14, 2009 5:26 am | |
| if i might say somthing, i don't think it has anything to do with dagorhir itself for the underage drinking, i think the only part that plays is that alot of people who do dag usually are in their teens yes, but most people at events and such are over the legal age. that being said, i also must say this doesn't just happen at dag events, drinking and such occurs at every get together of people in mass numbers, there really aren't alot of places you can go with the same amount of people in one area and not have some kinda party happen, i myself say am unbiased in this matter, i wont explain my reasoning but i see both sides. that aside i really think there should be dry camp parties as well _________________ the blood of the innocent shall not run tonight- Tyr the BloodMoon champion
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|  | | kurai

Posts: 28 Join date: 2009-03-06
 | Subject: Re: WotIF VI after chat Wed Oct 14, 2009 3:04 pm | |
| The thing that needs to be remember is that for most people, it's a courtesy to offer someone alcohol, since most people, specifically under aged ones, are going to be looking for a chance. If your brother was offered alcohol, it wasn't as something to mess with him, it was probably seen as being nice to him. As for the friends of under age members helping to get alcohol, we can't police everyone, nor do we make an attempt to. If this is such a problem and you want to see something done about it, I suggest you start sacrificing some of your time and making sure that it doesn't happen. We aren't there to baby sit. If you go into a camp that has drinkers, you can usually expect to be offered something. If that offends you, stay out of those camps. Don't expect the entire setup of an event to change just because it offends you guys. if I go into a camp and someone offers me a drink, I can either accept or decline. I don't automatically have to drink it. But again, it's a courtesy. People don't say what is in a drink unless asked because it's a pretty much unspoken rule in Dag, people like to keep mixes a secret. If you want to know what's in something, tell them you are allergic to some kind of alcohol or really can't stand it or something. People don't ask age because it's a, basically, don't ask don't tell thing. tl;dr: Either police your own people, or stay out of drinking camps. It's not our responsibility to make sure your under age members stay sober. |
|  | | Kairi Cypmann Seneschal

Posts: 680 Join date: 2008-08-20 Location: Rolla, MO
 | Subject: Re: WotIF VI after chat Thu Oct 15, 2009 6:46 am | |
| | kurai wrote: | | tl;dr: Either police your own people, or stay out of drinking camps. It's not our responsibility to make sure your under age members stay sober. |
Um, that's kind of the whole point we're making. We want dry camps to avoid drinking ones. No one is willing to 'police and babysit' as you like to put it, and thus, we keep saying to stay away from camps like Mordor. My point is that people should be watching things like underage drinking. The point is that the "don't ask, don't tell" policy is wrong, so you're just proving my point that the attitude of most people in Dagorhir isn't something I really want to be a part of at events. It gives all of us a bad image rather than just the few of us that deserve it, and I find that unfair-- and bad for recruiting new people to our sport.
You can say whatever you'd like about courtesy drinks being offered and whatnot, but my brother specifically told the guy who offered him something that he was only 14. The guy simply said, "So?" and my brother wisely walked off. THAT, sir, is very, very wrong for someone to have done, and I sadly feel like that same attitude is used by a majority of the people in charge of the alcohol at events. The reason underage drinking is banned is because kids at that age do stupid things-- like not know when to stop, or what will affect them strongly, or when too much is enough to make you vomit, etc.
And in case you weren't aware, most of us DO babysit and watch our younger members and take time out of our own night to make sure they're being responsible, so I'd appreciate it if you didn't make it sound like we leave them to the dogs. The only reason things went bad with Micajaah is because he was there the day before the rest of Haven (minus one or two people) showed up. Believe me when I say we ALL feel responsible for having let that happen, because if we'd been there, that probably wouldn't have been the case. :\ _________________ I am because I need to be.
Kairi the Claymore
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|  | | Constantine

Posts: 377 Join date: 2008-08-22 Location: Truman Province
 | Subject: Re: WotIF VI after chat Thu Oct 15, 2009 7:04 am | |
| | kurai wrote: | | People don't say what is in a drink unless asked because it's a pretty much unspoken rule in Dag, people like to keep mixes a secret.. |
Saying "Hey, this has alcohol in it" doesn't compromise the secrecy of the mixture. Nobody's going to make you list the ingredients and their respective amounts. I find this point invalid. It's the responsibility of the person receiving the offer to ask if the beverage has alcohol in it, AND, in the event that the person doesn't think to ask, it's the responsibility of the person offering the drink to indicate its alcoholic content. The policy shouldn't be "don't ask, don't tell," it should be "ask AND tell."
I don't have a problem with people offering alcohol as a courtesy. I think that's understandable. It just seems like people should pay attention to the people to whom they offer the alcohol and show some discretion if the people are obviously underage.
I'm not attacking a specific group or a specific individual. I'm attacking ignorance and carelessness. Offering alcohol to minors, withholding the alcoholic content of a beverage, and knowingly accepting an alcoholic beverage when underage are all wrong and irresponsible, no matter who does them. _________________ I shed a tear for every drop of blood drawn by my blade. Why we seek peace through death and murder, I will never know.
I'm much better at wordplay than swordplay. ----------------------------------------------------------------- Squire Apprentice Bard, Scholar, Apprentice Weaponsmith
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|  | | Odin

Posts: 433 Join date: 2008-10-20 Location: Rolla
 | Subject: Re: WotIF VI after chat Thu Oct 15, 2009 8:47 am | |
| I tend to just assume that every drink offered is alcoholic, which tends to be true more often than not. Idk if the offerer should be required to say it, unless the person receiving it looks underage _________________ There ain't no rest for the wicked
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|  | | Angus

Posts: 283 Join date: 2008-10-14 Age: 21 Location: Rolla, MO
 | Subject: Re: WotIF VI after chat Thu Oct 15, 2009 8:53 am | |
| I like the discussion that this topic is generating, but I'd like to see it discussed in a different thread. This one is for talking about the event, and I think the topic of drinking and partying at events is not only a separate issue, but also that the party aspect of any event (unless it's just a party) really ought to be secondary to the DAGORHIR part of the event. Look for a new thread in the discussion board titled: Underage B&?!? |
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